Saturday, 25 March 2017

11 Little known mistakes that are pushing you towards sadness & frustration

Things that push you towards frustration
Do you often feel sad for no reason?

Do you believe sometimes that your fate is totally marked by rough patches at regular intervals?

Has frustration become a guest that visits you too often in your life?

The bitter truth of the world is that good times don’t last longer confirming the arrival of rough period.

But people overlook to focus on another entailing sweet truth, which is, that bad times last even shorter.

The above statement might conflict with your understanding and you must be feeling that bad times stay longer than good but that’s not true.

The difference lies in your Attitude. Your attitude decides the time period of your sorrows and grieves.

An interesting thing to note here is how you take your problems and troubles.

Every time you fall sick you seek to visit the doctor. Once you see the doctor you start feeling better because half of the problem is already over and rest of the job is taken care by the medicines.

Here is an analogy - when you are suffering from sadness or grief, you yourself are the doctor & medicine is the time. Once you realize this important fact then you yourself will be able to solve 100% of your problem in a very short time.

Ask yourself this question -
Does a rough patch totally resembles like a confinement to you or you see it as a passing disturbance?

I leave it to you to think it through and come up with an honest answer.

Coming back to the topic, have you ever felt as if something is pushing you towards sadness.
Have you ever tried to think what causes frustration inside your head?

Well, generally there are some petty reasons or worries which cause disheartening.
I am not saying every time but most of the time.

Most of the problems can be solved just by being aware of the reasons behind them  
So, in this post I will tell you the common mistakes which push you towards sadness and bring unwanted trouble in your life.

Let’s get started-

        1.   Allowing Social Media to impact your life

Image displaying what social media is all about

For a moment, just be honest with yourself.  Let go off whatever ego is there in the head and think.

Do you feel jealous when you see photos of your colleagues or friends enjoying or partying on your social media wall?

Or you feel a sense of inferiority when your immediate peer or friend travels to London for work?

I suppose that your answer will be ‘yes’. If the answer is ‘No’ then you are really phenomenal (No Sarcasm). This is a major factor that can cause immediate mood change.

Always remember, Social Media is there to help you to remain connect with others so don’t let it be a source of jealousy in you in anyway.  

       2.    External Competition harms your soul

Competition should make you better not a rival

Romeo and Juliet never knew the reason of their family feud. Even their parents were not fully aware of the reason of the feud.

A similar thing happens when we overly compete against someone else.

Competition is good but when it turns into a rivalry it pushes you away from your own goal and you start living someone else’s life.

Remember, the purpose of competition is to make yourself better rather than disrupting your life.

       3.   Not moving on

Another major mistake people make is that they                refuse to move on.

When a grey event happens in your life, you tend to stick to the same position in life.

This grey event can be anything like break-up with your beloved, failure in the exams or not receiving promotion at the desired time.

A simple fact that people forget is life is a gift and is all about moving ahead stepping over the sorrows of past.

       4.   Lack of Reading in  life

All the images containing text that people share on social media are read by millions of people daily.

At the same time, a perception gets formed in their minds that they are reading.

Honestly, this is not effective reading.  The horizon of reading is not limited to reading just 
3 lines of text in an image whose authenticity is not even verified.

Reading enlightens the mind, it enlightens the soul. It makes you happy, helps in regaining your composure and improves your grip on the language.

When you start feeling any one of the above advantages it means you are Reading.
        5.   Alcohol addiction is awful!

Alcohol takes you to a different world and you feel relaxed on losing your worries and sorrows, for the time being, receiving momentarily pleasure.

But, sincerely this raises a question on your ability to tackle your issues and not being capable of controlling yourself that is why you leave it to alcohol.

It is not bad to have alcohol may be once in a month just to have a good time with your friends or family but it’s addiction for relaxation can be a serious life crusher.

       6.  Grass is always greener on the other side.

Remember the time when you would give your 100% to evaluate and solve the questions in your math exam.

But in life we don’t do the same.

We devote a lot of our time to evaluating what the other person has, rather than acknowledging what we have.

This is a very well known fact yet we pay very little attention to it.

      7.   Having no goals of your own

Life is nothing without goals
You live in a world where people are driven by external competition instead of a constant desire to improve by competing with their own selves.

Due to this attitude, one often becomes part of a race, which in no way he/she belongs to, leaving his own journey.

Why does this happen?

It happens due to the absence of a goal and a strong desire to achieve it.

      8.     Nurturing Procrastination

How many times have you thought of playing that guitar lying in the corner of your room but couldn’t do it just because you have been stalling it since months?

Frustration generates when a task is pushed over and over to a later period of time.

Why? Because there was an innate desire to complete it but you killed it brutally.

Procrastination may bring relaxation at the moment but can become a big source of trouble in the long term.

Attitude develops when you take up the task and finish it rather than postponing it for no reason.  

If measured, all the influential leaders of the world had 0.0000001 % of procrastination. (A wild guess :D)

      9.   Never checking on the mess created around you.

             When you are not into planning and performing, mess gets created.

             Suppose, for the day, you plan a bunch of activities for yourself but refuse to take the pain              of jotting them down in a piece of paper and setting the priorities.
             I bet, you will find yourself in a mess because you will forget most of them.

             Being unorganized is like being untidy. Both are sources of negativity.

             You won’t realize but it pushes you miles away from completing what is necessary to                         achieve your goals.

      10.  Are you killing the balance?

Maintain balance in everything
Doesn’t matter if you are driven by the rage to become a multi-millionaire but if you don’t have even 2 hours a day for your family then the worth of your goal reduces by each day.

Maintaining balance is important.

Of course, you can’t keep everyone happy but nobody is asking you to do that. Your ability to decide priorities plays a pivotal role here.

As a student, if you dedicate all your time to studies and nothing to sports or other social activities then you are killing the balance and paving a way towards unnecessary sadness. 

Remember, vice versa is also not right.

      11.  Finding hard to digest secrets

21st century doesn’t allow the people, who are open books, to survive. I mentioned 21st century because I didn’t exist before J

never reveal all your secrets

When you feel pain you seek somebody with whom you can share it. The moment you find someone you take out everything in front of him/her never realizing you are revealing away your strengths and weaknesses too.

Very less you will get a real helping hand from someone or a genuine tap on the back with words like ‘everything is going to be fine’.

It would be in the best interest of you if some secrets including yours and of people around you are not revealed to this world.

If keeping secrets causes you indigestion then please get over it.

Wrap Up

So, finally the time has come to acknowledge what you have, strive to achieve what you want and stop grieving on what you don’t have.

The line above doesn’t make sense?  No problem check out the below example.

If you have a great family but don’t have a job, acknowledge the fact that you have a great family, strive hard to get a job but don’t complain about not having a job.

May be it is the time to think over what life offers on a regular basis rather than being frustrated or sad for no reason.

Have you been unintentionally making any of the above mentioned mistakes?

Will you choose happiness over frustration and sadness and make an effort to change your mindset?

Would you like to share any other mistake, you know, that often pushes people towards sadness?

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Thursday, 16 March 2017

9 hacks to make your daily travel to work highly productive

Make your daily travel to work productive by following these 9 ways

Do you commute to work or school for more than 30 minutes daily?

Have you recorded your daily commute time; home to work and work to home?  

If either way it exceeds 15 minutes then you must realize that you are gifted and if it is a 2 hour commute daily then certainly a treasure lays in front of you, the treasure of time.

Are you aware of it already and seeking for ways to hunt it? Well, by the end of this post you will definitely be aware of more and more ways to utilize the daily commute time.

I assume you might be thinking at this moment that you never get to sit in the train or bus you use to reach work or school daily because of all the rush during peak hours.

You stand by the seats grabbing the pivoted handles dangling from the roof of the bus or the train for your entire travel to work and bear a lot of trouble in reaching school or work.

Well, I must tell you that a few years back I would go through the same situation like you.

I would travel the entire 40 minutes (one way) journey standing in the local trains of Chennai counting the number of stations passing by.
(Don’t do this, this activity might question your existence in the world … :D :D)

After a few weeks I found it difficult to spend my time in train, counting the stations would no more interest me.

So, I took to buying newspaper every morning and reading it. 

Initially, it was difficult for me as I had to read the Newspaper standing in the train everyday but somehow I managed.

And, what I realized after a few days, I was not getting bored because I replaced ‘counting the stations’ activity with ‘reading Newspaper‘.

Reading Newspaper kept me updated with the current affairs and by chance I made the daily commute time (at least one way) productive.
What the Census report says?

According to the latest census report, around 4 million people in India use buses daily as a mode of transport from home to their place of work for a distance of 11-20 kms.

More than 2 million people in India use train to commute for a distance of no less than 21 kms and some 1 million people use water transport to get to work and school.

Percentages of Different Modes of travel to place of work used by Indian People

I presume if you are reading this post then you must be using some mode of transportation either private or public to get to school or work.

Can you answer this question how many people you see, who share the same means of transport as you, are engaged in doing something productive?

Do exclude chatting or talking on phone.

             1.      5 out of 100
             2.     or 10 out of 100
             3.     or at maximum 30 out of 100. 

If you see any number more than this then you are sitting among some brilliant people who are destined to do something big in their life.

Don’t leave their company!

If 70% of all of us start doing something productive everyday, then imagine, where will the productivity level climb to; these many people will then start contributing to their own individual success and indirectly to the success of the nation.

The collective talent and skill set of the nation will get a sky-rocketed boost. 

So, let’s get started with the ways to make the daily commute time productive–

       #1 Read Books
Learn the importance of books and read books to utilize your long commute to work

Long commute to work sucks!  I know.

The finest solution to make your long 1 or 2 hours commute better is to read books.
It will become increasingly better when you dedicate this time to reading books.

This may solve a lot of problems like -

           1. You are very much familiar with the importance of books and you have always wanted to read them but couldn’t take out the time from your busy schedule.
           2. You are seeking to build a reading habit but have not been so successful                      till  now somehow.

Therefore, go to your favorite book store today or login to an online second hand books store and buy a good book today.

The next time you board the daily bus or train, take around 4-5 minutes to settle and then open your book and start reading.

While reading, you will not only build command over the language but improve grammar, vocabulary and other aspects of it too. Also, the growth of your mind cannot be ignored.

#2 Be updated with the current affairs

Increase your daily productivity by staying updated with the current affairs
Use your daily commute time to stay updated with the current affairs by reading a newspaper or a magazine.

If the average commuting distance is 15 miles then you would take around 1.5 -2 hours penetrating the peak hours traffic which is enough for you to read the Main page, World section and the sports section of the newspaper.

Set a target to read at least 5-6 articles and try finishing them.

Reading newspaper will also improve your grip over the language and will keep 
you informed and updated.

You will appear informed which will certainly push your stature up in the social gatherings and discussions.

    #3 Let Puzzles make you intelligent

According to a scientific research, puzzles help connecting the information stored over a period of time in your memory.

It tries to bridge the gap among the information pieces scattered around in the brain helping you to form logic.

You can find uncountable puzzles if you Google the keyword ‘puzzle’ on internet.

Or, simply use the newspaper to solve the daily or weekly crossword.

So find a good puzzle to solve a night before you commute.

Read the problem and start thinking about the solution.

The reason I am telling you to read the problem a night before is because the next day, during travel to work, you will be compelled to open it again because of the engagement your brain has already established with it the night before.  

#4 Observe

Be observant and surely you will make your daily commute time entertaining
I would recommend this as a very special activity and you must consider doing this once a week at least and twice a week at most.

So, what is observation I am referring to?

It is looking with an attentive mind anything you find along your way to work place or college.

It can be the pivoted grab handles dangling from the roof of the bus you are travelling in, or the shape of the trees passing by or the advertising hoardings on the side of the roads.

A question would come to your mind about what is the outcome of observing such things.

Well, it helps in rewiring your brain and developing wisdom.

According to the internet, rewiring your brain doesn’t depend only on positive thinking and working hard, it also depends on boosting creativity.

Observing advertising boards is definitely going to boost your creativity.

Creativity enhances when the mind is free that is why don’t limit your observation to just one thing; observe random things with an open mind and make your commute productive.

     #5 Start maintaining a Journal
Write what you have in your mind in a journal during your travel to work

Gone are the days when one would complain about not able to write in the moving bus or train.

Today, with the evolution of technology, it has become tremendously easy to write your thoughts in a phone or a laptop or a tablet.

So, if you already have a habit of maintaining journal, you can utilize your daily commute time effectively by writing your thoughts in one of millions of journal app available.

In case you don’t write a journal or a diary then it is the time to begin.

Now, you may be wondering what I should write in it.

A healthy tip is to write all the petty things that bother you and see the magic! 

     #6 Plan your Meal

Let your commuting miles make you a chef
Bored with all the same food you have been eating for long?

Why not use this 30 -40 minutes of the daily commute time to explore new recipes for dinner.

This will probably develop your interest towards cooking which is considered as one of the healthiest hobby to have in the world.

But, if you are already a chef then you may become a source of momentarily happiness for your family by cooking new recipes every weekend.

      #7 Listen to an Audio Book

As per the latest census report, over 157,000 people board trains in Delhi and approx 2.3 million people take trains in Mumbai to reach their place of work.

The data signals a big rush during peak hours which means that it might become difficult to open the newspaper or a book during the commute.

Graph depicting people who take trains to reach place of work in Mumbai & Pune

What to do in such a situation?

Well, obviously, doesn’t matter how crowded the train or the bus is you will always see co-commuters enjoying music in their headphones.

I will recommend you to replace music with hearing something informative like the last night’s debate on your favorite news channel or self-improvement lessons by your favorite spiritual author.

Listening to self-improvement lessons during your trip to work will not only prepare you for the day but also will introduce a new zeal inside you every day.

      #8 Learn a new language

Remember those German classes which you always wanted to attend but couldn’t because of the shortage of time.

Your commute gives you an opportunity to learn a new foreign language and get an edge over others.

Utilize your daily travel time to learn a new language and get an edge over others

Suppose you travel to work for 22 working days a month which calculates to 264 days a year and your commute time on average is 35 minutes a day then in total you get around 9240 minutes a year to learn a new language.

Understanding and speaking a foreign language will not only help you rewire your brain but will make you stand distinguished in social gatherings and discussions.

     #9  Set your Goals

Last but not the least; use the time to travel to work twice a month to set your goals and gauge your progress on them.

One of the best ways to be productive in life is to set goals and measure your progress

God forbid but by any chance, you haven’t set your goal of life yet then the daily commute gives you an opportunity to think it through.

Analyze how much effort you are making to achieve your goals and how much more is needed.

Travel can best be used for retrospection when you are sitting by the window and a cool breeze just ruffles your hair.

Do not overlook the efforts of nature to help you.

Wrap Up

With the evolution of technology, it has become easier to keep yourself engaged in a moving train, bus, or a van.

The difference lies only in how you are using the technology, whether you spent time chatting in your phone with a friend or reading a book. The choice is yours.

All the methods described in this post are equally important from the point of view of development of both mind and attitude.

Your overall focus should be to educate yourself in every way possible to increase your productivity level and make your travel to work highly entertaining.

So will you start following the activities described here?

Which activity you liked the most?

Would you share any other healthy tip with us to make daily your commute better?