Do you often feel sad for no reason?
Do you believe sometimes that your fate is totally
marked by rough patches at regular intervals?
Has frustration become a guest that visits you too
often in your life?
The bitter truth of the world is that good times don’t
last longer confirming the arrival of rough period.
But people overlook to focus on another entailing sweet
truth, which is, that bad times last even shorter.
The above statement might conflict with your
understanding and you must be feeling that bad times stay longer than good but
that’s not true.
The difference lies in your Attitude. Your attitude
decides the time period of your sorrows and grieves.
An interesting thing to note here is how you take your
problems and troubles.
Every time you fall sick you seek to visit the doctor.
Once you see the doctor you start feeling better because half of the problem is
already over and rest of the job is taken care by the medicines.
Here is an analogy - when you are suffering from
sadness or grief, you yourself are the doctor & medicine is the time. Once
you realize this important fact then you yourself will be able to solve 100% of
your problem in a very short time.
Ask yourself this question -
Does a rough patch totally resembles like a confinement
to you or you see it as a passing disturbance?
I leave it to you to think it through and come up with
an honest answer.
Coming back to the topic, have you ever felt as if
something is pushing you towards sadness.
Have you ever tried to think what causes frustration inside
your head?
Well, generally there are some petty reasons or worries
which cause disheartening.
I am not saying every time but most of the time.
Most of the problems can be solved just by being aware
of the reasons behind them
So, in this
post I will tell you the common mistakes which push you towards sadness and bring
unwanted trouble in your life.
Let’s get
started-
1. Allowing Social Media to impact your life
For
a moment, just be honest with yourself.
Let go off whatever ego is there in the head and think.
Do
you feel jealous when you see photos of your colleagues or friends enjoying or
partying on your social media wall?
Or
you feel a sense of inferiority when your immediate peer or friend travels to
London for work?
I
suppose that your answer will be ‘yes’. If the answer is ‘No’ then you are
really phenomenal (No Sarcasm). This is a major factor that can cause immediate
mood change.
Always
remember, Social Media is there to help you to remain connect with others so
don’t let it be a source of jealousy in you in anyway.
2. External
Competition harms your soul
Romeo
and Juliet never knew the reason of their family feud. Even their parents were
not fully aware of the reason of the feud.
A
similar thing happens when we overly compete against someone else.
Competition is good but when it turns into a
rivalry it pushes you away from your own goal and you start living someone
else’s life.
Remember,
the purpose of competition is to make yourself better rather than disrupting
your life.
3. Not moving on
Another
major mistake people make is that they refuse to move on.
When
a grey event happens in your life, you tend to stick to the same position in
life.
This
grey event can be anything like break-up with your beloved, failure in the
exams or not receiving promotion at the desired time.
A
simple fact that people forget is life is a gift and is all about moving ahead
stepping over the sorrows of past.
4. Lack of Reading in life
All
the images containing text that people share on social media are read by
millions of people daily.
At
the same time, a perception gets formed in their minds that they are reading.
Honestly,
this is not effective reading. The
horizon of reading is not limited to reading just
3 lines of text in an image
whose authenticity is not even verified.
Reading
enlightens the mind, it enlightens the soul. It makes you happy, helps in
regaining your composure and improves your grip on the language.
When
you start feeling any one of the above advantages it means you are Reading.
5. Alcohol addiction is awful!
Alcohol
takes you to a different world and you feel relaxed on losing your worries and
sorrows, for the time being, receiving momentarily pleasure.
But,
sincerely this raises a question on your ability to tackle your issues and not
being capable of controlling yourself that is why you leave it to alcohol.
It
is not bad to have alcohol may be once in a month just to have a good time with
your friends or family but it’s addiction for relaxation can be a serious life
crusher.
6. Grass is always greener on the other
side.
Remember
the time when you would give your 100% to evaluate and solve the questions in
your math exam.
But
in life we don’t do the same.
We
devote a lot of our time to evaluating what the other person has, rather than
acknowledging what we have.
This
is a very well known fact yet we pay very little attention to it.
7. Having no goals of your own
You
live in a world where people are driven by external competition instead of a
constant desire to improve by competing with their own selves.
Due
to this attitude, one often becomes part of a race, which in no way he/she
belongs to, leaving his own journey.
Why
does this happen?
It
happens due to the absence of a goal and a strong desire to achieve it.
8. Nurturing
Procrastination
How
many times have you thought of playing that guitar lying in the corner of your
room but couldn’t do it just because you have been stalling it since months?
Frustration
generates when a task is pushed over and over to a later period of time.
Why?
Because there was an innate desire to complete it but you killed it brutally.
Procrastination
may bring relaxation at the moment but can become a big source of trouble in
the long term.
Attitude
develops when you take up the task and finish it rather than postponing it for
no reason.
If
measured, all the influential leaders of the world had 0.0000001 % of
procrastination. (A wild guess :D)
9. Never checking on the mess created
around you.
When
you are not into planning and performing, mess gets created.
Suppose,
for the day, you plan a bunch of activities for yourself but refuse to take the
pain of jotting them down in a piece of paper and setting the priorities.
I
bet, you will find yourself in a mess because you will forget most of them.
Being
unorganized is like being untidy. Both are sources of negativity.
You won’t realize but it pushes you miles away
from completing what is necessary to achieve your goals.
10. Are you killing the balance?
Doesn’t
matter if you are driven by the rage to become a multi-millionaire but if you
don’t have even 2 hours a day for your family then the worth of your goal reduces
by each day.
Maintaining balance is important.
Of
course, you can’t keep everyone happy but nobody is asking you to do that. Your
ability to decide priorities plays a pivotal role here.
As
a student, if you dedicate all your time to studies and nothing to sports or
other social activities then you are killing the balance and paving a way
towards unnecessary sadness.
Remember, vice versa is also not right.
11. Finding hard to digest secrets
21st
century doesn’t allow the people, who are open books, to survive. I mentioned
21st century because I didn’t exist before J
When
you feel pain you seek somebody with whom you can share it. The moment you find
someone you take out everything in front of him/her never realizing you are
revealing away your strengths and weaknesses too.
Very
less you will get a real helping hand from someone or a genuine tap on the back
with words like ‘everything is going to be fine’.
It
would be in the best interest of you if some secrets including yours and of
people around you are not revealed to this world.
If
keeping secrets causes you indigestion then please get over it.
Wrap Up
So, finally
the time has come to acknowledge what you have, strive to achieve what you want
and stop grieving on what you don’t have.
The line
above doesn’t make sense? No problem
check out the below example.
If you have
a great family but don’t have a job, acknowledge the fact that you have a great
family, strive hard to get a job but don’t complain about not having a job.
May be it
is the time to think over what life offers on a regular basis rather than being
frustrated or sad for no reason.
Have you
been unintentionally making any of the above mentioned mistakes?
Will you
choose happiness over frustration and sadness and make an effort to change your
mindset?
Would you
like to share any other mistake, you know, that often pushes people towards
sadness?
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